By Lady Dyanna
The following is an excerpt from Lady Dyanna’s book Forever Twin Flames and Twin Souls: A Guide for Soul Based Relationships.
Seeking Your Twin Flame
So you are seeking your twin flame/twin soul? You are not having a lot of luck finding that elusive relationship.
You have met lots of people who might work. They turn out to be not at all what they initially seem or they want something different from what you think a twin flame/twin soul relationship should be. You met someone whose energy zinged with yours or so it seemed but there were other problems with this person. They could not possibly be your twin flame/ twin soul they were just too different from what you expected.
Here is what you may be doing wrong:
1 - You have actually found the twin flame/twin soul but is in denial because of a myriad of differences that would make a none spiritual/soul based relationship fail. So you are not giving it a chance but off seeking the ideal person again.
2 - You may not be seeking from a spiritual place within your self. You may think that you are but chances are that you started there but drifted away from it.
3 - You are allowing your physical ideas and ideals of who this person should be override the spiritual connection that indicates the true twin flame/twin soul relationship.
4 - You are most likely taking advice about what to expect from sources that do not have a twin flame or twin soul.
5 - You may expect the relationship to follow the same patterns of every relationship you have had in the past.
6 - You have not realized that ideal physical attributes [looks, race, age, income, career, etc...] does not necessarily go with a twin flame/twin soul relationship. And that a deep and abiding love is possible even if the ideal physical attributes are not all present.
Approval
Is it more important that your friends and family approve of the decision that you make in your twin soul relationship, or that the decisions that you make resonate with you and your soul? I ask that because sometimes the hardest decision we make is whether to please family and friends or ourselves. There is a fear that if we go against the majority consensus and things not work they will say “I told you so” or not be supportive. How many chances to be happy or to achieve something that is really important to us are lost that way?
Are you willing to let your spiritual journey with your twin soul be handled that way? From where I stand it is more important that the choices I make resonate with my soul and my twin souls’ soul than with any one individual or group of individuals. It is in this relationship that the majority is not always right. It is in this relationship that the majority should not rule unless it is the souls who are considered the majority. Can you hear the choices of the soul over the opinions of family and friends running through your mind? If not this would be the time I advocate clearing your mind of clutter. It would be a wise thing to release all that does not belong to your soul at this point. Because if you make a choice based on the consensus you will find that later no one “told you to give up on the relationship” they just suggested it was not “right” for you. Sometimes the only thing not “right” for you is other people’s opinions of what is right for you.
Manifesting
Our twin flames mirror us in many ways. How do you expect him/her to love you if you do not love you? Look within do you love yourself, do you even like who you are, are you happy with the person you see in the mirror or are you always finding fault with him/her? Believing in your self and loving yourself gives of a very different energy from the person who is constantly down on themselves and negative about who they are.
